NO!!!!! Absolutely not. For your safety and boundaries as well as mine, I keep and demand a respectful container between facilitators and couples. In a private retreat, I never enter your bedroom, and we only interact in our common area where we create a workshop Temple space. I may guide and teach physical intimacy techniques and tantra WITH CLOTHES ON that you and your partner practice together. And, there is always an alternative technique, practice, or tool to substitute for anything you do not feel comfortable with doing. Feel welcome to take those tools into the bedroom AFTER our Retreat! Also note, that primarily we are working with energy, alignment, healing, space holding, forgiveness, communication, connection, learning, healthy conflict, new commitments and tools, and physical intimacy is the little cherry on top of the new depths and trust that is built.

The most important questions here are 1. Do you BOTH want to make the marriage or partnership work? 2. Are you both willing to get uncomfortable, try and learn new things to make it work better? If the answers are YES, then we will likely be able to get great results for you! We must interview each other for me to screen further and assess our fit for this work.

Generally speaking, no. I am confident we can achieve great results together, and that I can create a spectacularly safe space for your partner. The female facilitator option is a wonderful addition for one day of our private retreat. I know several outstanding feminine embodiment, tantra guides and healers that can help to deliver a unique spin, as well as example for some of our work. Let’s discuss your goals and comfort zone and create the right private retreat for you and your partner.

It takes two to tango! It is important for both of you to buy in. If your partner doesn’t want to do this, I ask, is it my energy, personality, or approach that is the cause of their hesitation or is it timing, money or desire to meet you in improving the relationship? If it is the former, please encourage your partner to speak with me and see if we connect. If it is the latter, then I suggest you focus on your own growth and healing and see if your partner rises to meet you.

No. This work is transformational enough without any substances. We usually do hold a cacao ceremony, which is literally drinking melted raw chocolate with a few adaptogenic herbs. It has a stimulant effect similar to caffeine and helps to open the heart.

I combine modern relationship psychology with spirituality and a breadth of facilitation and transformational experience to fix issues and guide you both toward deeper embodiment of sacred relationships. I hosted a men’s circle for 3 years and deeply learned the psyche of modern men. I also practiced as an attorney for 13 years and honed mediation skills as well as a grounded approach to communicating and understanding esoteric spiritual principles.

A monogamous experience. No disrespect to the poly-loving couples, but our retreats are for practicing monogamy better. Our principles also work for the mostly monogamous. Whatever one of our couples does outside of our container is up to them, and no judgment on their consensual agreements. However, to be clear, I do not get involved sexually with my clients, and keep a tight sexual relationship with my partner. Also, our group couples retreats are not invitations for couples to experiment outside their relationship with the other couples.

Generally masculine and feminine principles apply in straight or non-traditional relationships. While I’ve had gay and lesbian couples attend my workshops with great results, I have not facilitated a deep private container. If you feel called to my energy and approach, let’s have a conversation and see if it is aligned for us both.

Generally, our retreats are mostly vegetarian or also include fish. The goal is to keep food light because we move a lot of energy. If you have special dietary needs, please let me know as soon as possible, especially if it is a group retreat, and we will do our best to accommodate you.

It is important to create a neutral, distraction-free zone to work to create change. The home is tied up with too much energy and too many distractions that prevent us from really focusing. Plus, you owe it to yourself to go into a new space and create a new turning point in the relationship.

No. There are thousands of options for online therapy. We are unique in that we create an in-person experience to level up your relationship and address years of therapy in a few highly focused days. Our approach is holistic, therapeutic, backed by Gottman Institute therapy techniques, and also includes ceremony and ritual. We create a rite of passage, a rebirth for the relationship, free from distractions. This is a turning point in which many things will change and the spark is reborn. Therapy will likely hit differently after our retreat, or may no longer be needed. I’m not here to invest in an hour a week with you over zoom. Our in person experiences do come with a pre-session and a few integration sessions to set you up for success.

Our services are generally booked with a deposit and then paid in full a few weeks before the retreat. The payment of the deposit is a commitment you are making to yourself and the relationship. Further, it allows me to set my Calendar and prepare energetically to create a magical experience for you.

We understand that sometimes life happens. Generally, we apply the deposit and money paid towards a reschedule or another experience as appropriate. Anything else we will handle fairly with you on a case-by-case basis. Any changes should be communicated as early as possible.

Generally, we must get on an alignment call and make sure there is a mutual understanding and fit to do the work. Next, I’ll send a Quote and Agreement. You sign and pay a deposit or in full. It goes on our calendar and you’ll receive further instructions to prepare for the experience we agreed upon.

No. However, I prefer to speak to both partners together. I understand that life puts scheduling demands on you which makes that difficult. So, if one of you wants to meet with me, feel my energy, and learn my approach, I welcome the consultation! Before we commit to doing work, however, I’ll need to also set up a call with your partner.